If you meet a guy you like and he has kids, here are some things to consider:1. Bad behavior often reflects ineffective parenting and other problems, and these problems will have a destructive effect on your relationship.3. There’s a difference between a divorced dad who has full custody because mom has serious issues and a divorced dad who only has his child during the summer. Hopefully, the single dad’s ex will be a reasonably nice person and he will have a good relationship with her.The number of kids he has will affect your relationship BIG TIME. If the ex is difficult, this will cause problems down the road.The only books I could find were about step-parenting. Considering the divorce rate in this country, I thought finding the advice would be easy. *crickets* My relationship with this man continued for... But I did learn a LOT about the kiddos and how to deal with them.So here is my advice about dating people with kids.A man with kids has a lifetime obligation to those kids, and they will require his love, attention, and money.If you find you don’t like to share, or you just don’t like kids, that’s fine — it’s better to know this and avoid dating men with children, rather than put yourself in a situation that isn’t fair to you, him, or the kids.
You have to make sure you're serious and your partner is serious before you bring the kiddos into the mix.
As I sat with my closest girlfriends on our routine girls’ night out (GNO) one Saturday evening, the suspense at the table didn’t go unnoticed.
Prior to our meeting, I had mentioned that I had some news to share.
Granted, there are certain age brackets above and below my own that would likely warrant the immediate no-go in my books, but I generally take the “organic” approach to dating. I'm talking about kids: The unforeseen element of Millennial dating.
I let the cards fall where they may and go with my gut when it comes to chemistry between me and another person. If you elect to date above your generational boundaries, it's a reality and one that recently became mine.