To help find the right questions, we called on three not-yet-married friends who gave some time to thinking about the challenges faced by singles: Lore Ferguson, Paul Maxwell, and the recently engaged Marshall Segal.
We ended up with these questions: The Bible commands Christians to marry “in the Lord,” that is, to marry other Christians (1 Corinthians ; 2 Corinthians ).
Because what I have tragically found is that Christian singles hit an area of desperation, particularly young women, and they will go: “Yeah, he is a Christian, he comes to church.” And really what they’re saying is this guy comes to church a couple of times a month, but outside of attending a service, he doesn’t have a real seriousness about growing in his understanding of the Lord, growing in his understanding of the Bible, being a prayerful person, no vivication or mortification that can be spotted, and no one who really knows them enough to speak to the growth in their character.
Now practically speaking, this means singles are seeking out people to speak into their lives.
The Bill of Rights 1689 allowed Protestant citizens of England to "have Arms for their Defence suitable to their Conditions and as allowed by Law" and restricted the ability of the English Crown to have a standing army or to interfere with Protestants' right to bear arms "when Papists were both Armed and Imployed contrary to Law" and established that Parliament, not the Crown, could regulate the right to bear arms.
No right to bear firearms exists under international law, in particular there is no human right to self-defense and its means.
But in a day when so much nominalism passes for authentic maturity, give us a few simple marks of spiritual growth that a man or woman should be looking for in a potential spouse.
To get really practical, avoid French kissing and petting—anything that is sure to ignite the fires of passion. Feeding your thought life with junk only makes it harder to remain pure in your actions. Decide where you're going to draw the line, and tell God that with his help, you are not going to cross that line until marriage. The Bible says it's a serious thing to make a vow to God.
The second was the central role played by fathers: they squire the daughters to the ball, dance with them, receive fulsome tributes from them (Hannah: ), and later on will be called on to vet any young man showing an interest.
Sometimes it's a tough balance, but showing love for another while remaining pure is possible.
At the same time, realize that you can't stick to your promise without his help.
That's why it's important to renew your commitment . Before a date, it's normal to spend a lot of time getting ready. But you also want to make sure you're spiritually prepared.